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Leaving high school can be one of the most scariest yet accomplishing event to happen in your life. Although you should feel extremely proud of yourself for graduating high school, leaving high school can be scary in many ways. You could be fearful of leaving behind the place that was comfortable and familiar to you for that past 4 years, maybe fearful of the unknown, fearful of starting a completely new chapter by your self, fearful of growing up or even fearful of failing.
So many fears goes along with leaving a place thats almost like your second home. The place you spent morning and day in for 5 days a week for 4 years. A place you entered as a child and left as an adult. A place filled with people to teach you and to motivate you on where to go and now that you’re about to leave all this behind it’s almost the same feeling as throwing a person that doesn’t know how to swim into the water.
Everything soon to come after leaving high school is a blur and the overwhelming feeling all teenagers have when this day comes is completely understandable and normal.
It’s okay to feel scared. It’s okay to feel confused. It’s okay if you don’t know what to do next or what’s coming next. It’s okay that you feel stuck. It’s okay that you don’t have everything figured out yet because guess what you’re not suppose to have it all figured out.
You’re at a age where you haven’t learned everything about yourself yet. You haven’t gone out there and explored enough to know what you really want to do with your life. At your age you may feel like so, you may feel like you know everything about yourself but wait a couple more years or even 1 year or even a few months, you will see what I am talking about…
We live in a world where we feel like we have to have it all figured out while we’re young so that we are prepared for the future. We feel the need to have the next few months planned so that in 5-10 years we are in a “stable” place in our life and in most cases its our loved ones and people who are close to us that make us feel this way.
But the truth is, we can never be prepared as to what will happen in our lives. We can never prepare and plan enough. We can try to come up with as many plans possible and prepare for as many obstacles that we might face but just like the quote from the movie Back To The Future “our future is not written”. OUR FUTURE IS NOT WRITTEN! so many things change as time goes on in our lives. YOU change so much as time goes on and so it’s destined that your values and goals change and as your values and goals change, the “future” that you once envisioned changes.
You may even feel like you’ve changed so much during this past year and when you continue to grow you’re going to keep feeling this way. You’re going to go through stages of maturing and stages of healing and self-discovery. After all these stages you’re going to quickly see how much you’ve grown as a person.
There’s also going to be people that will come in and out of your life whether that is friendships, relationships or family members and they will each teach you a lesson and teach you something new about yourself. There will be many jobs that you will be working at that will also come in and out of your life but each job will teach you more and more of what you don’t want to do for the rest of your life and what you do want to do. There will jobs that will also teach you what kind of skills you have and what kind of skills you don’t have that you need to work on. There will definitely be jobs that will teach you your self-worth and open your eyes to believing you’re worth more than you think…
As we grow up it’s bound to happen that we grow out of certain goals and dreams. Dreams that we once had when we’re little kids or teenagers get replaced with new dreams as you become adults.
You may have dreamed when you were younger that you wanted to become an actor and as you continued to grow up and mature into your adulthood, you experienced events that changed your life, that changed your way of thinking.
There will be events that happen in your life that will teach you a big lesson, a lesson that made you open your eyes to what you truly want to do with your life.
Maybe you will experience when you get older or already have experienced a situation where you hit rock bottom and you went through one of the most depressing time of your life and it opened your eyes to how much you don’t want others to feel this way so now your biggest dream is to help and inspire others. Now this dream creates different paths you want to explore maybe paths like becoming a councillor, therapist, a motivational speaker focussed on mental health, creating videos to help others etc…
Now the future you once envisioned before for becoming a famous actor becomes a future of helping people.
Two completely different futures but because one dream didn’t happen, that does not mean your future is now over.
This does not mean you’re a failure for not making this “dream” of yours come true.
Simply what had happened is that time passed and you’ve discovered who you are and the future has just simply changed for you. This does not mean you have no future. You just have a different future in mind, a future that aligns more with who you are, with who you are at this CURRENT time.
And guess what this is going to happen many times in your life but the main thing to take out of this example is to not feel like you’re a failure for not accomplishing dreams that you once had. Dreams that you had when you didn’t even know anything about yourself.
When you get older and when you get into a situation where you feel like you failed, especially maybe if you get into a new job or school after high school that you don’t want to pursue anymore, I want you to come back to this and remember…
You didn’t fail because you grew up and matured into a person with different values and goals. You didn’t fail because you moved on from something that no longer excites you. You didn’t fail because you want a different future than the one you wanted as a kid. You didn’t fail because you feel as if you deserve something much more… because you do.
You’re not a failure, you’re simply trying to figure it all out and once you do figure it out after many many many times of trying to get back out there, you will feel so proud that you didn’t give up when things got hard. You will feel proud that no matter how many times you felt like a failure and no matter how many times people have made you feel like nothing is possible, you still went out there and moved on from the things that no longer make you happy to go find out what truly does.
There is so much more time for you explore what you want to do with your life. Just because one dream of yours ended because of the fact you had to let it go because it no longer serves you, the worst thing you can do is stay in that position. Stay in a position where you still hang on to something even though it doesn’t make you happy anymore. You hang on so tight onto this one thing because it’s the only thing you’re familiar with.
But you must let go and move on to the next chapter. Just because one chapter has ended that doesn’t mean that there will be no happy ending to your story, that there will be no future. There’s still the rest of your story. You have to end one chapter to move on to the next and keep going until you reach that happy ending. You will not get there if you stay on the same chapter for years. There’s so many chapters left for you to explore, don’t stay on one for too long or you will never get to see what happens in the next one.
